It’s tough to find energy or get anything done when your first thought after waking up in the morning is, “I can’t believe I’m still dealing with this. It’s never going to get any better.” When you can rack up the evidence that you’re letting yourself down, or letting other people down and...

It sounds so easy to just “stop shoulding yourself” but our “shoulds” are extra sticky. They express our values and form a core part of our identities. We would even feel a little lost in the world without them. Unfortunately, they also cause us big problems. Instead of inspiring us in the direction of our goals, they create guilt, shame, and even hopelessness. Read on to learn how to work with them.

“Making friends” might seem like a small part of your life but it affects our deepest joys and fears. If feeling at ease in social situations doesn’t come easy to you, know that it doesn’t have to stay that way.

Changing your mindset will make every aspect of friendship more rewarding. Most of us are skeptical that big mindset changes are possible. Thankfully, human beings are amazing, and we’ve discovered ways to create transformation that feels like relief and tells the truth.

Perfectionism is a barrier between us and the important people in our lives. It also makes us hesitant to connect with new people! Learn how to feel at ease, warm, and confident in the most central parts of your life.

Perfectionism not only creates a barrier between us and our loved ones; it also limits the number of people we connect with. Instead of feeling at ease, warm, and open to connection in social situations, the self-judgment in perfectionism makes us want to avoid being around people because we know it’ll be exhausting.