How To Make an Apology That Doesn't Suck (Part 2)

How To Make an Apology That Doesn't Suck (Part 2)

If you haven’t read Part 1, you should go do that now. If you’re a rebel and choose not to, you’ll probably be able to work it out, but it’ll make more sense if you do.

Okay, so now the apology. Here’s the key. If you want to apologize effectively, and you’re not trying to be manipulative or selfish, you have to truly believe that the other person is hurt for good reason…

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How to Make an Apology That Doesn't Suck (Part 1)

How to Make an Apology That Doesn't Suck (Part 1)

If you ever interact with another human, then you’re going to do something that hurts, annoys, angers, irritates or bothers them. They’re going to do the same to you. As I see it, it’s not a matter of broken virtue, though we all have impulses that are less than saintly. Sometimes it’s those impulses — we’re selfish, greedy, lustful, tired, etc — and sometimes it’s just a matter of competing values. We wanted to help a friend, so we promised to do that, but we also had to be at work so that became the priority when a work…

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There Is No Such Thing as the Pain Olympics

There Is No Such Thing as the Pain Olympics

I was in a car accident a little over a month ago. Thankfully, I was the only person in the car when another driver made an illegal U-turn into the driver’s side of my now-totaled Pontiac Vibe. And, thankfully, I walked away with no visible injuries but a concussion and some intense headaches that didn’t go away for about two weeks.

This is going to sound weird, but my favorite thing about that experience, so far, is that it’s been a great opportunity to be reminded how Big Things work emotionally. I’ve been lucky to have a decent streak of No Big Things for a little while now and I’d forgotten how my brain…

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Life Beyond Perfection. How to Love "Enough.”

Life Beyond Perfection. How to Love "Enough.”

Have you ever heard someone say that the best way to answer the common job interview question “What’s your biggest flaw?” is a self-deprecating “Well, I can be a bit of a perfectionist.” In theory, it’s a great answer. What employer doesn’t want to hear that you have extremely high standards?

In reality, on a day-to-day basis, perfectionism is harming us.

It holds us back, diminishes our potential…

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